Motivating ourselves can be difficult. Often because there are other factors that impede on our emotional health and wellbeing that have an effect on whether or not we are able to motivate ourselves and stay motivated.
It’s important to note that emotional distress can be tackled, once the route of these feelings are identified they can be overcome, helping you to feel happier, balanced and motivating you to achieve your goals.
Motivation is a crucial element to achieving good health and wellbeing. Why? Because emotional distress and negative feelings can have a negative impact on your physical and psychological state.
Below are some simple steps to help you to make the improvements needed to become accountable for your pyschological health:
Take charge-Make the decision to make positive changes in your life (this was my first step!)
Invest time in you- It may be just 10 minutes at the start of the day to begin with. Take the time to find out what you want in life, how you are going to achieve it and why? This is crucial. Knowing why you are going to do something increases the attainability of the goal
Learn to relax and manage stress- engaging in daily or weekly relaxation techniques or an enjoyable activity that you can ‘lose yourself in’ can lift your spirit. It’s a simple but effective technique. We find a 20 minute soak in a hot lavender infused bubble bath at the end of the day whilst listening to smooth jazz by candlelight works for us.
Okay guys so this is the big one!… Avoid negativity, negative feelings and negative people- it’s often the case where negative situations can have a negative impact on your mood, particularity if you are already feel low.
In view of your problems tackle the ones that you can handle first. And for those that you can’t ask yourself on a scale of 1 -20, 10 being the tipping point and 20 meaning absolute death (to which there is no comeback) how serious is this problem. Perhaps, at the point of assessment you feel that it’s a 15. There may possibly be a solution but you haven’t quite worked it out yet, score it all the same and give yourself time to work on it (remember our SMART goals). Then go back and review your score. In 4 weeks for example you may find that the score is now an 11, which means you are effectively managing your situation which should be applauded, or that it’s still a 15, which means that it hasn’t got any worse.
Perhaps the problem isn’t as bad as you first perceived it to be, in which case you can lower the score anyway
∗Write a list of goals- tick your achievements off as you go along, this will increase your levels of self satisfaction.
We know this is not easy, and perhaps the biggest challenge you will face on your journey to becoming a healthier and happier you, but we are here to offer you all the support and guidance that you need. Many people struggle with self motivation. We are human after all, but the important thing is that after a down moment, you pick yourself up, don’t wallow! After all wallowing may have been a characteristic of the old you, or a characteristic that you do not want to inhibit.
∗Note to yourself that your circumstance is not the substance to who you are, exercise faith and know that you can rise above your circumstance∗
We have found that making a covenant with ourselves was just reminder we needed to make positive changes. Try it! Make a covenant with yourself – to be the best you can be, to achieve your destiny, recognise your purpose in life, then say it until you believe it (God gave everyone purpose)